(Inspired by Pastor Dave of New Horizon Church)
Scriptures: Genesis 2:18-24; Psalm 46:1; Proverbs 14:8; Ephesians 3:20-21
- Ladies, trust God for His best. Don’t lower your standards just so you can attract a man to you.
- Understand that there is no perfect man, but be patient, the right man for you is out there.
- Ladies, don’t worry about trying to find a perfect person, just strive to be the best person you can be. (“Am I the best person for him?” …. You find that out by seeking God in prayer.)
- Genesis 2:18 – Men, find a woman who is suitable for you and let her help you.
- Psalm 46:1 – God is our Helper!
- For a woman to help a man does not make her a second-class citizen, but to be a helper to a man in marriage is godly.
- Ladies, ask yourselves, by being with a man, are you helping or hurting him? (and vice versa)
- There is a difference between trying to help a man and trying to fix him.
- Questions for women to consider:
“Am I desperate?” (Are you the one asking the guys out on dates? Are you the one pursuing? … Or are you having sex with a man to whom you are not married? If so, tell him, "No more sex until marriage," and see how long he stays. That's a good indicator of his true feelings towards you.)
“Why am I attracted to him?” (The fact that he might be “cute” is not good enough. If the man does not have his priorities straight, he is not good for you.)
“Does he love Jesus?”
“Does he fight for my purity?”
“Does he bring order or chaos?”
“Are there issues we are avoiding?”
“Does he lose his temper in the dating process?”
“Does he flirt with other women?”
“Does he make fun of me?”
“Is he ready and willing to love me like Christ loves the Church?”
The bottom line is this: “Is he God’s best for me?”
- You wouldn't want stale potato chips from the bottom of the bag would you? Don’t settle for stale chips when you can have a great meal.
- Don’t let aisle --> altar --> him …. become “I’ll … alter … him.” (Only Christ can change a person.)
- Understand that marriage does not change you into a better person; it magnifies the person you already are. Your choice in marriage will change your life for the better—or worse.
I just want to encourage and inspire as many people as I can for Jesus Christ.