I'm so thankful for my wife Kaneika Grant Alston! She is a total God-send. It's been a great six months so far and I feel like I've learned so much from her and about her as we have been moving along in our journey. We laugh a lot, have fun, make sure we find effective ways to communicate, serve each other, and hold each other accountable in love. We want the best for each other and we push each other towards good works to please Christ, for it is He Who is at the center. I look forward to another set of six months and another set of six months and another, and well... you all get the point lol. Please pray for us that we will continue to remain stedfast and focused on who and what the Lord has called us to be. Thank you! I love you babe! 😉😍
Today my wife, Kaneika, and I celebrate our first month of marriage! I am so glad that I married her. She is such a blessing to me, and not only to me, but also to my family and friends. My dad, step-mom, and sisters have bonded with her in such incredible ways. And I love how Kaneika and I strive to work as a team to accomplish our goals, hence Team K&K. =) She is passionate, focused, loving, kind, big-hearted, and most importantly, she serves Christ! As we serve Christ together, and draw closer to God I know we'll draw closer to each other. I look forward to the point where 12 months equals a year and we'll celebrate our first anniversary. And we'll celebrate many many more months together! I love you babe! #HappyMonthaversary
5 days until Kaneika and I tie the knot! Thanks to everyone who has shown us so much love, support, and encouragement throughout this journey! And I'm so thankful to the Lord for being with us every step of the way of this journey so far. And I have no doubt about Him being with us every step of the way going into the future as well! See everyone on Saturday! Go #KandKWedding! =)
You don't have to doubt God's love for you because of what you did in your past. You don't have to doubt God's love for you because of what you might have done just now. You don't have to doubt God's love for you because of what you will do in the future. Nothing "shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord" (Romans 8:39). It's interesting to me how many people can say they believe in God, but not in Jesus [as Lord], but it's in Jesus where the love of God is found.
I had to set some boundaries for my mother recently and she took it the wrong way. When people are used to having their own way and are used to trying to control your life, when you finally do set proper boundaries, they don't know how to take it. So all I can do is pray for her. I am not responsible for how she acts and reacts to things. I am only responsible for how I act and react to things... The truth is there are some people that you just have to love from a distance.
When you learn how to set boundaries as you deal with certain people in your life, it's not that you are trying to be disrespectful or hateful. It's that you are trying to protect your heart and whatever else is important to you. People have to know that they cannot talk to you a certain kind of way or do certain things to you. In my case, my mother was recently treating me like I was a teenager who used to live with her. Well I don't live with her anymore and therefore, the way she and I communicate has to change. We should be talking as if we are two adults, not as if I am the child in her household. She has a tendency to play the blame game in bringing up past issues, but when I am trying to move forward with certain plans, her blame game does not help us to be productive. So I had to set boundaries. At one point she was trying to talk through me to get to my fiancée, and I basically let her know in so many words that I was not going to stand for that. She likes to talk over me so I can't get a word in at times. Nope, I'm not having that.
It is not un-biblical to set boundaries for people, even if they happen to be your parents. But people have to know where you stand on certain issues, or else they'll have a tendency to walk all over you. Then you feel like you've been defeated somehow and no one has time for that, honestly. There is a way to be respectful, "[Honouring] thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee" (Ex. 20:12), and still let them know that they should respect what good you are trying to accomplish in your life. When you set boundaries, some people will get upset. But you are not responsible for how they act and react to things. You are only responsible for how YOU act and react to things.
Hopefully this post will help someone who is dealing with an overbearing loved one. God bless!
If love is not the reason for what we do for people, then what we do is ultimately in vain (1 Corinthians 13). Sometimes in the middle of engaging in discipleship, we can get caught up in doing certain things to be seen or trying to "teach" certain principles to appear so wise to other people in some kind of effort to prove something. The problem is that kind of behavior is rooted in selfishness, pride, arrogance, and insecurities. When you really know who you are in Christ, you don't have to try to prove anything to anyone.
"Fulfilling Jesus’ command to make disciples is about more than having the right theology or well-developed teaching points" (Francis Chan). Making disciples isn’t about gathering pupils to listen to your teaching. It’s not about what you know—or what you think you know—it’s about love. Let's always be faithful to God’s call to love the people around us. We need to love people enough to help them see their need to love and obey God. Moreover, we don't need to beat people down with religion. We don't need any more Pharisees. What we need is more people showing people Jesus, the One Who loves us perfectly.
There is a fundamental difference between telling a woman she looks beautiful and telling her she IS beautiful. Telling a woman she looks beautiful speaks to her make-up, outfit, other external features, etc. But telling a woman she IS beautiful speaks to her heart, her soul, and her spirit, regardless of what she has on. #FoodForThought
I just want to encourage and inspire as many people as I can for Jesus Christ.