I had to set some boundaries for my mother recently and she took it the wrong way. When people are used to having their own way and are used to trying to control your life, when you finally do set proper boundaries, they don't know how to take it. So all I can do is pray for her. I am not responsible for how she acts and reacts to things. I am only responsible for how I act and react to things... The truth is there are some people that you just have to love from a distance.
When you learn how to set boundaries as you deal with certain people in your life, it's not that you are trying to be disrespectful or hateful. It's that you are trying to protect your heart and whatever else is important to you. People have to know that they cannot talk to you a certain kind of way or do certain things to you. In my case, my mother was recently treating me like I was a teenager who used to live with her. Well I don't live with her anymore and therefore, the way she and I communicate has to change. We should be talking as if we are two adults, not as if I am the child in her household. She has a tendency to play the blame game in bringing up past issues, but when I am trying to move forward with certain plans, her blame game does not help us to be productive. So I had to set boundaries. At one point she was trying to talk through me to get to my fiancée, and I basically let her know in so many words that I was not going to stand for that. She likes to talk over me so I can't get a word in at times. Nope, I'm not having that.
It is not un-biblical to set boundaries for people, even if they happen to be your parents. But people have to know where you stand on certain issues, or else they'll have a tendency to walk all over you. Then you feel like you've been defeated somehow and no one has time for that, honestly. There is a way to be respectful, "[Honouring] thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee" (Ex. 20:12), and still let them know that they should respect what good you are trying to accomplish in your life. When you set boundaries, some people will get upset. But you are not responsible for how they act and react to things. You are only responsible for how YOU act and react to things.
Hopefully this post will help someone who is dealing with an overbearing loved one. God bless!
I just want to encourage and inspire as many people as I can for Jesus Christ.